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Fall, 2020 newsletter

Police have killed 781 people in 2020 in the US.  Black people have been 28% of those killed by police in 2020 despite being only 13% of the population.  The police arrest someone every 3 seconds in the United States.  Over 80% of these arrests are for low-level, nonviolent offenses. The cost of policing is a staggering $115 billion per year.It is not possible to discuss prison issues, criminal justice, or the human cost of incarceration, without addressing the impact of 400 years of  structural racism and white privilege.

Hello from Mary House,                                                                                                September, 2020

I hope that this finds you well, during this incredibly challenging year. 2020 has been so difficult for all of us, in ways that we could never have predicted, and often can’t even imagine in each others lives.  For prisoners and their families, 

COVID-19 has brought added misery, risk and grief.  The great majority of prisoners and their families have lost the ability to visit each other  at a time when children everywhere are already haunted by fears and uncertainties that their parents can do little to alleviate.  

COVID-19 case rates are  higher and are escalating more rapidly in US prisons than in the US population.   As of June 22, 2020, over 570 incarcerated people and over 50 correctional staff had died and the rate of infection in state and federal prisons was five and one half times that of the US population as a whole. Most of the largest coronavirus outbreaks are in correctional facilities.  This reflects only state and federal prisons, and the rate of COVID transmission in jails is likely to be even higher due to overcrowding and the complete impossibility of social distancing.  Yet the great majority of states have failed  to release substantial numbers of nonviolent offenders in order to stop the spread inside jails.

FCI Oxford is completely closed to visitors now, and talking with families who long to visit is heartbreaking.   At Mary House, we’re doing the same thing many of these families are doing – trying to keep the bills paid, hang in here, and hope for better days to come.  Hopefully a combination of visiting room modifications and a lessening of the COVID-19 infection rate will result in families  and loved ones  being able to see each other  again soon.  We’re immeasurably grateful to all of you who have continued to support Mary House during this time – bills like insurance, property taxes, utilities and heat are unchanged here, even though our guests are absent,  and we so appreciate your help so that we can stay ready to welcome these families back the minute the federal prison system addresses visitation.

And meanwhile, all of us who care about the particular struggles of prisoners and their families and loved ones can spend some time  struggling to better understand and begin to confront the undeniable  systemic racism within our criminal justice system, which incarcerates Black people at a rate nearly six times greater than it incarcerates white people. For most prisoners, incarceration begins with policing. A recent briefing by the Prison Policy Institute sheds some light on why we have the world’s largest prison population, and why Black families are so disproportionately impacted. , You can read the briefing below.

And finally, as you know, Mary House and FCI Oxford are surrounded by the beautiful green farm fields of rural Wisconsin.  We are also surrounded by yard signs, and a few days ago, about two miles from the house, I came upon two large flags in front of a house. One is a Trump banner, and the other is a confederate flag.  I took a photo, thinking of this newsletter and intending to share it.  But it turns out that flag is so abhorrent, so disgusting, so frightening, that I can’t bring myself to print the photo.   PLEASE,  Vote.  

Thank you all so much for your continued care and support for Mary House and the families we serve,  Cassandra

The following article was published this summer by the Prison Policy Institute, and is available, along with a wealth of information, reports, slide shows and infographics explaining the humanitarian and financial impact of our criminal justice system, at https://www.prisonpolicy.org

by Wendy Sawyer, Prison Policy Institute,  June 5, 2020  https://www.prisonpolicy.org/blog/2020/06/05/policingfacts/

Police disproportionately target Black and other marginalized people in stops, arrests, and use of force; and are increasingly called upon to respond to problems, such as homelessness, that are unrelated to public safety.

Many of the worst features of mass incarceration — such as racial disparities in prisons — can be traced back to policing. Our research on the policies that impact justice-involved and incarcerated people therefore often intersects with policing issues. Now, at a time when police practices, budgets, and roles in society are at the center of the national conversation about criminal justice, we have compiled our key work related to policing (and our discussions of other researchers’ work) in one briefing. 

 1. Nearly 1 million people in the U.S. experience the threat or use of force by police annually, and they are disproportionately Black and Latinx.

The scale of police use of force is an important fact in and of itself, made more troubling by the racial disparities evident in police stops and use of force. In a national survey, Black respondents were more likely to be stopped by police than white or Latinx respondents, and both Black and Latinx respondents were more likely to be stopped multiple times over the course of a year than white respondents. The survey also showed that when they initiated a stop, police were twice as likely to threaten or use force against Black and Latinx respondents than whites. These disparate experiences have predictable effects on public trust in police: white respondents were more likely to view police use of force as legitimate and more likely to seek help from police than were people of color.  

2. Over 4.9 million people are arrested each year.

In all, there are over 10 million arrests in the U.S. each year, but many people are arrested multiple times per year. From responses to a national survey, we estimate that at least 4.9 million unique individuals are arrested and jailed each year, and at least one in four of those individuals are arrested more than once in the same year. The massive scale of these police responses means that there are millions of opportunities each year for police-civilian encounters to turn violent or fatal, and an estimated 77 million people are now saddled with a criminal record.

3. Most policing has little to do with real threats to public safety: the vast majority of arrests are for low-level offenses. Only 5% of all arrests are for serious violent offenses.

The “massive misdemeanor system” in the U.S. is an important but overlooked contributor to overcriminalization and mass incarceration. For behaviors as benign as jaywalking, sitting on a sidewalk, or petty theft, an estimated 13 million misdemeanor charges sweep droves of Americans into the criminal justice system each year (and that’s excluding civil violations and speeding). And while misdemeanor charges may sound like small potatoes, they carry serious financial, personal, and social costs, especially for defendants but also for broader society, which finances the enforcement of these minor violations, the processing of these court cases, and all of the unnecessary incarceration that comes with them. 

4. Policing criminal law violations costs taxpayers over $63 billion each year.

Policing costs the public $126.4 billion per year, nationwide. In our report about the fiscal costs of mass incarceration to the government and families of justice-involved people, we used only half of that figure – $63.2 billion – because only about half of police work is devoted to criminallaw enforcement. The other half is spent on things unrelated to criminal law violations, such as traffic control, responding to civil disputes, and administration. Even at half the total cost of policing, $63.2 billion represents a huge public investment in criminalization. As many Americans are questioning the role of police in society, they should know just how much money is available to redirect to more humane community-based responses to social problems. 

5. People who are Black and/or poor are more likely to be arrested, and to be arrested repeatedly. 

People who are arrested and jailed are often among the most socially and economically marginalized in society. The overrepresentation of Black men and women among people who are arrested is largely reflective of persistent residential segregation and racial profiling, which subject Black individuals and communities to greater surveillance and increased likelihood of police stops and searches. Poverty, unemployment, and educational exclusion are also factors strongly correlated with likelihood of arrest.

 6. People with mental illnesses or substance use disorders are also more likely to be arrested, and to be arrested repeatedly.

 People who are arrested often have serious health needs that cannot and should not be addressed through policing or incarceration. Even a few days in jail can be devastating for people with serious mental health and medical needs, as they are cut off from their medications, support systems, and regular healthcare providers. Even worse, many people are arrested in the midst of a health crisis, such as mental distress or substance use withdrawal. History has shown that jails are unable to provide effective mental health and medical care to incarcerated people, and too often, jailing people with serious health problems has lethal consequences

7. Women make up a growing share of arrests and report much more use of force than they did 20 years ago, with Black women most likely to be targeted.  The experiences of women and girls – especially Black women and other women of color – are often lost in the national conversation about policing. But of course women, too, are subject to racial profiling, use of excessive force, and any number of violations of their rights and dignity by police. Our analysis of national data shows that women now make up over a quarter of all arrests, with an estimated 2.8 million arrests in 2018. At the same time, the use of force has become much more common among women: the number of women who experienced police use of force (about 250,000) was 3.5 times greater in 2015 compared to 1999.   A closer examination of the data also reveals racial disparities in police stops, arrests, and use of force involving women. Black women are more likely than white or Latina women to be stopped while driving, and Black women are arrested 3 times as often as white women and twice as often as Latinas during police stops. Black women also report experiencing police use of force at higher rates than white or Latina women.

8. Disabled people represent a disproportionate number of those stopped, arrested, and killed by police.

As the ACLU of Southern California and the Bazelon Center for Mental Health Law reportmany criminalized behaviors targeted by law enforcement are related to disability: substance use (often used as self-medication for pain and other symptoms), homelessness (an estimated 78% of people in shelters have a disability), and atypical reactions to social cues, which may be interpreted as vaguely defined crimes such as “disorderly conduct.” The Ruderman Foundation reports that in police use-of-force incidents, the media and police often blame disabled people for their own victimization, especially by characterizing disabled people of color as “threatening” and “refusing to comply.” 

The frequent use of police as first responders to individuals in crisis only compounds these problems. Too oftenofficers who are called to help individuals get medical treatment end up shooting them instead. Public funds should be redirected to community health providers to handle mental and physical health crises, rather than trying to meet this critical need with militarized police forces, who sometimes receive little training on crisis response or de-escalation.

9. Police treat Black Americans with less respect.

A Stanford University analysis of police bodycam footage from nearly 1,000 vehicle stops substantiates what Black Americans already know: police officers treat Black people differently than they do whites. This study, discussed in our briefing, finds that “police officers speak significantly less respectfully to black than to white community members in everyday traffic stops,” and that this happens irrespective of officer race, severity of the infraction, and outcome of the stop. These findings lend important context to the racial disparities observed in police encounters. 

10. State and federal law enforcement practices target poor Black and Latinx residents.

Separate reports focusing on policing in Chicago highlighted two law enforcement strategies justified as ways to protect communities – drug stings and asset forfeiture – that facilitate widespread targeting of low-income communities of color. Federal agents from the Bureau of Alcohol, Tobacco, Firearms, and Explosives (ATF) arranged drug stings that set up fake drug stash houses and lured people into committing new crimes. But they didn’t single out just anyone: At least 91% of the time, agents targeted Black and Latinx people.  Meanwhile, Cook County police conducted 23,000 seizures of assets connected to civil and criminal cases, a practice that is supposed to disrupt major illegal drug trades. But an analysis by Reason and the Lucy Parsons Lab showed that police officers were often taking petty property and the lowest-value seizures (valued under $100) were clustered in predominantly poor and Black communities on Chicago’s South and West Sides. These examples illustrate that at every level, the “war on drugs” functions as a war on communities of color. 

 Acknowledgements: This briefing was compiled by Wendy Sawyer based on previously published writing by current staffers Wanda Bertram, Alexi Jones, Wendy Sawyer, and by Policy Initiative alumns Joshua Aiken, Alex Clark, Lucius Couloute, and Elliot Oberholtzer. https://www.prisonpolicy.org/policing.html  

Please Vote.
Now. As soon as possible.
You can find resources to register, ask for a mail in ballot, find your polling place, and help your friends and neighbors to vote at
 https://www.whenweallvote.org/vrh/ or https://www.vote.org

Read More:  Visualizing the racial disparities in mass incarceration:  a slideshow of infographics https://www.prisonpolicy.org/blog/2020/07/27/disparities/#policing

Study documenting COVID spread in prisons:  https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jama/fullarticle/2768249#figure-table-tab

To find out how your own state is doing on releasing nonviolent offenders to stop the spread of COVID, visit  the Prison Policy Initiative’s report, Failing Grades: States’ Responses to COVID-19 in Jails & Prisons at https://www.prisonpolicy.org/reports/failing_grades.html   view a map of incidents of police violence:https://mappingpoliceviolence.org  see the cost of policing in major US cities:   https://www.vera.org/publications/what-policing-costs-in-americas-biggest-cities

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Holiday Greetings from Mary House, December, 2017

Dear Friends,                                                                                                             Advent, 2017

For the last 28 years I’ve sat down at this time of year to write to you about the work of prison hospitality at Mary House, and to ask you for your help in providing hospitality to the visiting children and families of federal prisoners here in rural Wisconsin. We are so grateful to every one of you for helping Mary House remain open to guests, year after year, season after season.

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Last year I wrote that I had never had such a hard time being positive – about what lies ahead for the families who visit here, and especially our youngest guests. About the rough roads ahead in their lives as they navigate the challenging terrain that comes with being family to prisoners in the United States. About the struggles of these families to move from chaos to calm, crime to well-being, and poverty to security in the months and years ahead. And about the space that remains for love and forgiveness, even as we seem, as a country, to have chosen a path rooted in selfishness, distrust, unkindness and greed.

 

Now, one year on, the unchanged resilience and generosity of our guests, and the steadfast and enduring nature of children’s love, are proof enough to me that love still wins. If we are longing to know that change is possible, we need look no further than the determined belief of these children that the fractured love in their own families can and will find a way. While it is undeniably true that hatred and greed and fear have found new voice in our country, the undiminished generosity and courage of these children and their families is a mighty challenge, and will win.

 

Our guest-room calendar is nearly full with the names of the families — some of them strangers and some of them returning friends, that will join us during the Christmas school holiday season. Their willingness to make this trip, driving through long dark nights and cold early mornings, eating crackers and peanut butter on long bus rides, arriving tired and cranky and happy and expectant and impatient, offers a peek at the season’s most determined angels walking among us.

 

This is Advent. It’s a time to honor those who wait, who are determined, who endure, who can envision a brighter day, whose love is steadfast, who don’t give up. I know that some of the children I’ve met during the year are in that number, and are waiting now to make the trip back here, bringing the very best gift under any tree anywhere – their own persistence and love.

 

This season’s guests are planning their travel now from Indiana, Minnesota, Detroit and Southern Illinois. They range in age from two years old to one great-grandmother. They work in service stations, bakeries, schools, and offices. They are members of churches and the US armed forces and girl scouts. They attend daycare, and kindergarten, third grade, high school and community college. They are from small towns in the Midwest, and the big cities of Chicago and Detroit. They love to read. They like to play pool. They are excited to see snow. They like to dance. They are Americans. They love their families.

 

Throughout this year, as I’ve talked with families making plans to visit here, I’ve heard a heartbreaking increase of wariness about driving and staying in this rural and unknown place. More families are worried that they won’t be safe or welcome. “.. we want to be sure we have directions – the cellphone reception is bad, and I don’t want to stop…. Will the house be open? I don’t feel great waiting in the driveway if you’re still at work….”   They want to be sure there is someone here when they arrive, and have good driving directions. Our guests have reminded me that they worry as they travel these roads that their families may be met by the hatred and violence that can sprig from a fear of strangers. They know how our state voted, and are less sure of a welcome for it.   But they are also undeterred, and thanks to your generosity and understanding Mary House is still here at the end of that long drive, warm, light, and open.

 

We are so grateful for your help, and we ask you now to keep Mary House’s doors open this season and into the coming years.

The American criminal justice system holds more than 2.3 million people in 1,719 state prisons, 102 federal prisons, 901 juvenile correctional facilities, 3,163 local jails, and 76 Indian Country jails as well as in military prisons, immigration detention facilities, civil commitment centers, and prisons in the U.S. territories. The US accounts for only 5% of the world’s population, but we hold nearly 22% of the world’s prison population. One in 110 adults are incarcerated in a prison or local jail in the U.S., which marks the highest rate of imprisonment in American history.

Clearly this is not working and is anything but sustainable. The cost of warehousing human beings is staggering – both to our national spending priorities and to the thousands and thousands of lives and families impacted. And it is a trend that’s not about to reverse course: the Justice Department under Jeff Sessions now seems intent on increasing rather than decreasing incarceration rates. Since 1980 our prison population has quadrupled, and now fully 1.6 million American children will face this holiday season with a parent behind bars. These children were never tried, or convicted, or sentenced. They have committed no crimes, but are nonetheless paying a terrible price.

This Advent finds many of us struggling to find a way to defend and strengthen the kindness and generosity that that makes us who we are, and Mary House is no exception.     In this time when many of us are questioning our lives and struggling with how best to stand up for what we believe in, what does persistence look like for Mary House?

 

This Advent, as we wait for the children who will visit us, and the parents and relatives that care for them, we are grateful for the miracle of hospitality, and lucky to be celebrating the willingness of these children to travel all this way, through bad weather in cramped back seats of uncertain cars on snowy, dark roads, and spend Christmas is an unfamiliar place with strangers – just to visit someone they love in prison. We need to recognize the cost to these families, and the economic hardship imposed by the need to travel just to maintain the family ties that are the greatest single factor in a released inmate’s chances of remaining free. We are so honored to have the company of ALL our guests.

We need to cherish these visiting children and their families, and be grateful for the small miracle of hospitality – the presence in our lives of the unexpected joy and struggle of strangers.

 This year more than ever before, we are so grateful to you for recognizing the struggles faced by these families, and for your generosity in helping Mary House continue to provide basic hospitality while they are far from home.  We’re grateful for your awareness of these children, and for your appreciation of their generosity and kindness. We’re grateful for your faith in them, and your insistence that they have the right to see and know their whole family. We’re grateful for your prayers and your encouragement.

And we’re grateful to you for supporting Mary House financially during the busy and challenging holiday season. Without you, we would never have been able to open the doors here, and without your continued support they would close.

 

Each year at Mary House I am more and more in awe of the women and children and families who grace our door. For many of the families we serve, life has gotten harder and more uncertain. Immigration changes have impacted many of these families. Minimum wage jobs fall farther and farther short of what it takes to raise a family. Health insurance has again become uncertain, and the cost of care threatens to rise for many.   The costs of traveling here to visit continue to rise.

 

Yet these families make this trip at Christmas carrying love in the trunks of their rented cars, and grit and determination in suitcases and child-sized backpacks. While some of us are packing up skis or swimsuits in hopes of escaping the working world, these children have packed up hope and brought it along to an old white farmhouse in a cold field in Wisconsin.

 

These children are full of anticipation – despite the fact that before they get through the door at FCI Oxford they’ll have to sit in a car on the side of a county road outside the prison until the exact minute their moms are allowed to drive into the parking lot, then stand in a line until they can take off all their shoes and sweaters and hairclips and belts and hope to make it through one single slow metal detector, then wait in another line, to walk down a long hallway, to wait again. Quietly. They are so generous with their energy and so willing to carry their love such a long long way, over and over and over again, that they easily put the rest of us to shame.

 

These children and their families are an example to us all of the kind of determination we will need in order to make the change we want to see in our country in the coming months and years.  With enthusiasm, with determination, with creativity and humor and stubbornness, and above all with bountiful and enduring love. We are so grateful to all of you for helping us to welcome them.

 

For many of us, travel to see family and loved ones is an expected part of the Christmas season. But for some of our guests it is nearly impossible, and it is your help that tips the balance.   Mary House receives no state or federal funding.   We rely upon your financial contributions to continue providing warmth and safety, hot chocolate and warm blankets, to the families who stay with us — during the holidays and throughout the year. Will you help us once again to keep this old farmhouse warm, and make sure the doors are open as the New Year arrives?

 

I know that we have asked you before. We have asked you over and over for 28 years to help us keep responding to the needs of these families. Now, this year, I am asking again that you hold our guests in your hearts as all of us struggle to find a way to stand strong for kindness and generosity, respect and human decency as we work to change landscape of our country for the better.

 

Our heartfelt thanks to you for all of your support. May your own holidays be filled with love, with hope, with courage, and with the joys of family and loved ones gathered together.

With deepest gratitude,

Cassandra Dixon, for Mary House

Your contribution to Mary House, in any amount, is tax deductible. To donate online using paypal or a credit card, please visit our website at www.themaryhouse.org.

Thunder rumbles in the mountain passes
And lightning rattles the eaves of our houses.
Flood waters await us in our avenues.

Snow falls upon snow, falls upon snow to avalanche
Over unprotected villages.
The sky slips low and grey and threatening.

We question ourselves.
What have we done to so affront nature?
We worry God.
Are you there? Are you there really?
Does the covenant you made with us still hold?

Into this climate of fear and apprehension, Christmas enters,
Streaming lights of joy, ringing bells of hope
And singing carols of forgiveness high up in the bright air.
The world is encouraged to come away from rancor,
Come the way of friendship.

It is the Glad Season.
Thunder ebbs to silence and lightning sleeps quietly in the corner.
Flood waters recede into memory.
Snow becomes a yielding cushion to aid us
As we make our way to higher ground.

Hope is born again in the faces of children
It rides on the shoulders of our aged as they walk into their sunsets.
Hope spreads around the earth. Brightening all things,
Even hate which crouches breeding in dark corridors.

 

Excerpted from Amazing Peace: A Christmas Poem, By Dr. Maya Angelou

Mary House Newsletter December, 2016

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Dear Friends,

For the last 27 years I’ve sat down this time of year to write to you about the work of prison hospitality at Mary House, and to ask you for your help in providing hospitality to the visiting children and families of federal prisoners here in rural Wisconsin. We are so grateful to every one of you for helping Mary House to remain open to guests, year after year, season after season.

In all these years, as I write this holiday letter, I have never had a hard time being positive.

The resilience and generosity of our guests, the steadfastness of the love of children, and the promise of this time of waiting have always brought into my mind a stream of joyful images to share from the year just past, and I’ve needed only to do my best to pass them on to you. The children who rode in a van all night and were amazed to see cows, and these empty fields, and snow when they awoke. The kindness and exhaustion of their mothers and grandmothers and aunties and grandfathers, spiriting them across them miles to visit the fathers and uncles and grandfathers in prison here in Oxford. The excited, waking, bubbling young voices at the door, “We’re here!!!!…. I just KNEW we would come back again!…. I’m HUNGRY, Can we play pool NOW?…. I want the toy story dolls where ARE they? …. Mom said we’re going to see my dad TOMORROW!!!!”

This year is different.

This year as I fill in the blocks of the calendar with Advent and Christmas guests it’s with the unbearable knowledge that these children, who will so generously grace this house with their love and energy during the coming holiday season, will suffer in the coming years from the choice our country has just made. The enemies of love are awake and among us now and showing their faces. Hatred and greed and fear.

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So at a time of year when usually I have the happy task of describing our young guests to you, and trying to share the bright faces of hope and anticipation, of affection and forgiveness and endurance that so mark these traveling children – this year I’m overwhelmed at how cavalierly we have, as a country, heaped more grief and anxiety into the lives of families who were already struggling. I expect I am not alone in wishing that I’d done more to work against this rising tide of selfishness and hatred that threatens us now. As surely as winter follows fall, the families who visit Mary House will suffer losses in the years to come and among those losses will be the chance to visit the family members they love in prison, because the little that’s there to make this trip is going to be shaved and squeezed and diminished by the coming changes in public policy. While we rage and mourn and question how our country could have turned such a corner, the families that visit at Mary House are among those who will be hurt first, and these children are among the innocents who will be hurt the most.

This year as I talk and plan with families arriving at the door or making travel plans for the weeks of Advent and Christmas I’ve heard too many times the questions that should shake us all awake: “…Will we be welcome there? Will we be safe?… We don’t feel safe. What if my mother comes with us, she wears Hijab and we are worried. Will there be someone there for sure when we arrive? …We saw so many of those yard signs for Trump. We wish we could arrive in daylight. We’re sorry we’re so late but we were lost and the cellphone reception is bad and we were afraid to stop and ask and so we drove and drove and drove….”

Seriously ?? But this is Mary House, I think. This is my home. Of course you should be safe here. Of course you should be sure of a welcome. This is the road on which I’ve lived for 27 years. My children grew up here. I leave from here for work and return home every night. And my own road has become a place of fear for the guests in this home? At Christmas time??

So yes, here is the work of Christmas. We will have to work harder, and love stronger, and challenge more, and risk more to make a way for human decency to flourish. It is our job in the coming years to prove that love wins, and we have got to stand up and meet that challenge.

And here at Mary House, with your help, we have to be ready to offer more. We need to be extra sure that the cheerios are crunchy and the milk is cold and sweet. That the pillows are fluffy and the toys are clean and welcoming. We need to keep the house a little warmer if that’s what it takes to fight the chill. We need to offer more transportation, because some of our guests are going to loose their cars and the trip here will get harder. We need to be sure to offer snacks for the trip home, because the twenty dollars that would have bought a family dinner on the way home is going to be erased by rising health care costs and the falling worth of minimum wage. We need to be sure to have someone here to welcome our guests on EVERY dark evening so that no-one ever has to wait in the driveway afraid. We need to cherish these visiting children and their families, and be grateful for the small miracle of hospitality – the presence in our lives of the unexpected joy and struggle of strangers.




As a country we incarcerate more people per capita than any other on earth: more than 2 million people. The US accounts for only 5% of the world’s population, but we hold nearly 22% of the world’s prison population. One in 110 adults are incarcerated in a prison or local jail in the U.S., which marks the highest rate of imprisonment in American history. And the racial disparities in incarceration rates are appalling, with African Americans comprising only 12% of the US population but 44% of its incarcerated population. Since 1980 our prison population has quadrupled, and now fully 1.6 million American children will face this holiday season with a parent behind bars. These children were never tried, or convicted, or sentenced. They have committed no crimes, but are nonetheless paying a terrible price.

Recently a friend asked me what lies ahead for Mary House? What does the future look like? At the time I laughed, and said things don’t seem to change much. But it made me think, and I realize the answer is that especially now, in a political climate that threatens to deepen the divides between us and promises a a harder and rockier road for anyone who is struggling in our country, we need to re-dedicate ourselves to the miracle of hospitality. We need to celebrate the willingness of these children to travel all this way, on snowy, dark roads, on trains and busses and planes – just to visit someone they love in prison. We need to recognize the cost to these families, and the economic hardship imposed by the need to travel just to maintain the family ties that are the greatest single factor in a released inmate’s chances of remaining free. We need to announce, loudly and often, that we are honored to have the company of ALL of these families.

This year more than ever before, we are so grateful to you for recognizing the struggles faced by these families, and for your generosity in helping Mary House continue to provide basic hospitality while they are far from home. We’re grateful for your awareness of these children, and for your appreciation of their generosity and kindness. We’re grateful for your faith in them, and your insistence that they have the right to see and know their whole family. We’re grateful for your prayers and your encouragement. And we’re grateful to you for supporting Mary House financially during the busy and challenging holiday season. Without you, we would never have been able to open the doors here, and without your continued support they would close.
This year, more than ever before, I am in awe of the women and children and families who grace our door. For many of the families we serve, life has gotten harder and harder and harder. Two-wage families are getting by on one paycheck, and now the hope of that minimum wage ever matching the escalating costs of raising a family has dimmed. Families who finally had insurance are again facing an uncertain health future. Yet these families arrive here with the energy and good humor they’ve stuffed into backpacks and duffels and back seats and coolers, and brought along to an old white farmhouse in a snowy field in Wisconsin.

These children are full of anticipation – despite the fact that before they get through the door at FCI Oxford they’ll have to sit in a car on the side of the road until the exact minute their moms are allowed to drive in, then stand in a line until they can take off all their shoes and sweaters and hairclips and belts and hope to make it thru a single slow metal detector, then wait in another line, to walk down a long hallway, to wait again. Quietly. They are so generous with their energy and so willing to carry their love such a long long way, over and over and over again, that they easily put the rest of us to shame.

These children and their families are an example to us all of how we need to approach the work of Christmas and in the coming years. With enthusiasm, with determination, with creativity and humor and stubbornness, and above all with bountiful and enduring love. We are so grateful to all of you for helping us to welcome them.

For many of us, travel to see family and loved ones is an expected part of the Christmas season. But for some of our guests it is nearly impossible, and it is your help that tips the balance. Mary House receives no state or federal funding. We rely upon your financial contributions to continue providing warmth and safety and oranges and candy canes to the families who stay with us — during the holidays and throughout the year. Will you help us once again to keep this old farmhouse warm, and make sure the doors are open as the New Year arrives?

I know that we have asked you before. We have asked you over and over for years and years and years to help us keep responding to the needs of these families. Now, this year, I am asking again that you hold our guests in your hearts as all of us struggle to find a way to travel the new and frightening landscape that is our country.

Our heartfelt thanks to you for all of your support. May your own holidays be filled with love, with hope, with courage, and with the joys of family and loved ones gathered together.

With deepest gratitude,

Cassandra Dixon, for Mary House

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